2018 Notes for 2019 Adventures
Happy New Year, everyone!
I hope everyone’s had a good amount of time to recover from the first of the festivities of the year! This NYE, a group of friends and I made our way down to Austin to celebrate 2019 and not gonna lie, it was definitely an interesting trip. Regardless of how things went though, my first trip to 6th Street was definitely a fun one. We lodged at the Element in downtown Austin & the area was great for sight seeing.
As I was driving to Austin, it occurred to me that I hadn’t actually had time to reflect upon this last year! The holiday season sure knew how to distract…
So here are some notes from 2018 that I thought I’d bring into the New Year on future endeavors.
make the choice & just do it.
2018 was definitely a year that I really made the choice to do the things that I wanted to do, regardless of what others thought of me. I wanted to release my creativity so I started a blog & explored content creation. I wanted new and better friendships so I went out on coffee dates and made them. I wanted to be braver & more open in how I share my faith so I prayed, learned more about my faith, and grew more in understanding others. I needed a job to fund my dreams so I went out to find several and got hired. And I wanted to be a better Mama to my fur babies so I made some tough decisions for their well being…
Nearing the end of 2018, I realized that I’d chosen to live life one choice at a time. Even if some choices were regrettable, making the choice to find options & fixing it and keep moving forward is another option. Yeah, you can’t control everything that happens in your life but for the things that you can, take a stand and choose a path.
make realistic goals
So I started blogging a little over 6 months ago & let me say a big fat WOOPS to all the missed weeks. When life starts picking up and you’re trying to balance school, work, friends and several media channels, consistency can go out the window faster than you can snap an OOTD.
During the summer, I’d had all the time in the world to publish so I’d set goals that I was able to actually satisfy. Then school started back up again, I’d gotten a job and then graduation & holiday season came like a tornado and my stupid ass was still trying to meet the same goals. BIG MISTAKE.
It’s important to understand that it’s okay to adjust your goals and the way that you meet them. Life happens but we do have the power to adapt, re-adjust and recenter ourselves in it.
This new year, I’m going to make both big and small goals that are achievable within my personal means.
remain kind & true to yourself
This past year, I’ve was blessed to cross paths with many interesting and talented individuals. At first, it was difficult to not compare myself, my life and creative work to others’. It took a while for me to even understand what kind of vibe I even wanted to put forth when I first started blogging. Everyone had their own aesthetic, everyone had bigger audiences, everyone had more of this or that. I was harsher towards myself and grew a temporary blindness to the blessings I already had. It wasn’t healthy - mentally or spiritually.
On the days that have been harder, I would stay still in silence, in prayer, reminding myself of my worth. And I can't stress enough how important it is to pause & do this. 2019 is going to be filled with more prayer and kindness towards myself so that I can better bring that love to others (in person & through my creative work).
spend your $$$ where you deem fit (& don’t feel bad about it)
I work hard. You work hard. Most people work hard to shape their lives into something they want to live comfortably in. I’ve never really had this problem before but ever since I started blogging- I don’t know if it’s just me- but I would sometimes feel guilty for choosing to spend my money here and not over there. The unnecessary guilt was getting out of hand and I so desperately needed to change this mentality before I started spending my hard work on unnecessary things (that would actually hinder me from reaching my own big girl goals).
Just know your goals and what it will take to reach them. Make your $$$ and invest it in things that YOU (& ONLY YOU) deem fit. Remember, no one else is responsible for reaching your financial goals but you.
So yeah, when you tell people “you’re broke” - YES. You damn well are for whatever unnecessary you don’t need (or want) to spend your hard work on - don’t feel sorry about it and just politely go about your hard working way.
don’t feed toxic
And by this I mean, if something or someone is exhibiting toxic behavior into your life, don’t react in ways that will enable more negativity to reach you or others. If you live with a roommate that’s just absolutely terrible, avoid them or better yet, if can find a way, move out. If you hate your job and your mental health is going downhill because of it, save up, look for another position before you quit and find a healthier state of mind working for a different company.
Removing myself from toxic/unhealthy situations and environments has been something I’ve gotten really good at in the last year. Positive vibes 2019, I’m ready for you!
So that’s 5 things I took note of in 2018 that I really want to bring into my new year!
Comment your top 5 things to bring into the 2019 from 2018 down below I would love to know!
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